Divorce can be an emotionally and financially taxing process for both spouses. Divorce is also psychologically exhausting for the children involved, with great emphasis on the difficulty during the holiday seasons. Children going through the divorce of their parents are oftentimes brought into a new dynamic of how to celebrate during holidays that typically emphasize bringing family together, in the midst of their family falling apart. Having parents separate may feel like a contradiction too big to oversee to be able to thoroughly enjoy the holidays.
Therefore, it is the responsibility of the parents to make a drastic transition as comfortable as possible for the child to thrive in. There are many avenues to make sure that a child feels the love of both parents. Divorcing parents may enter what is known as a “Parenting Agreement” or “Child Custody Consent Order” which are legally enforceable arrangements where parents negotiate the terms of topics of parenting time, welfare decisions, and a shared holiday schedule.
In the event there is a lot of conflict, disagreements, and arguments in a child custody situation, the law also provides for the appointment of a neutral third-party called a “Parenting Cooridinator.” The Parenting Coordinator can be tasked with facilitating final decisions in regards to the best interest of the child’s welfare wherever parents cannot come to common ground. This includes issues such as pick-ups and drop-offs between parents, parent communications with each other and the children, and strategies to best prioritize the needs of the children.
Ensuring that the kids can still look forward to celebrating their holidays is paramount during their transitionary period from a household with both of their parents to splitting their time between separate homes of their parents.
Take control and give your children the relief they are unknowingly seeking. Lessen their burden by stepping up to the plate as parents to move past any relationship woes of the past so that your children have healthy and fun holidays with both parents in the future. Modern Legal has both strategies and resources available to help with the daunting task of being the best co- parent possible for your children.
If you or somebody you know wants to learn more about holiday arrangements and child custody, our team at Modern Legal is here to help.
Please note: these educational materials are based on North Carolina law where my legal practice is based. While the insights may have wide applicability, readers should consult with an attorney regarding the specific laws in their state or country.
Jordan Wideman is a compassionate family law attorney at Modern Legal, driven by a lifelong passion for helping others. Coming from a family rooted in public service, Jordan brings empathy, strength, and dedication to every client. A proud first-generation attorney, Jordan uses personal experience and deep community ties to guide families through their most important challenges—because to Jordan, family is defined by love, not just blood.
