We all know Beyoncé told us: “If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it.” But what if you already did—and now you want to put a “contract” on it? That’s where the postnup comes in.
You have probably heard of a prenup (cue every “important legal document” before every celebrity marriage ever). A postnup is basically the remix: a legal agreement between spouses that happens after the date of the wedding. It can spell out how assets, debts, and financial responsibilities will be handled if things do not go as planned.
Why Get a Postnup?
Here’s the tea: you do not have to be on Keeping Up with the Kardashians to benefit from a postnup. Regular couples use them all the time—for totally relatable reasons.
Your Meager Savings Account turned Empire
Maybe you are “the next” tech wizard or business mogul, and soon you are hoping to build a business empire. Or maybe your spouse got a major inheritance. Postnups help you update the “what if” plan when your bank accounts evolve.
You Missed the Prenup Window
Sometimes love moves fast, like a Drake album drop. If you didn’t get around to a prenup pre-wedding, no worries—a postnup lets you catch up. Although a different set of laws apply, a helpful family law attorney can help you get similar protections.
You Hit a Rough Patch… But Stayed
Some couples use a postnup as part of healing. Think of it like Lizzo said: “Truth hurts, needed something more exciting.” Except this time, it is clarity and structure in a signed spousal agreement —not rebounds.
Blended Families = Blended Finances
If you have kids from previous relationships, a postnup can help make sure they are protected when it comes to estates, wills, and future planning.
Are Postnups Legit?
Totally—but only if you do it right (please refrain from the “back-of-a-napkin” deals here).
To be enforceable:
- No pressure, just vibes – Both of you have to sign willingly. No threats, guilt trips, or shady power moves.
- Keep it fair – A postnup that gives one person everything and the other ramen noodles will not fly.
- Financial transparency is key – You have to be real with each other about your money before signing anything.
- Stay legal – You cannot waive away things like alimony or child support.
Real Talk: It’s Not “Unromantic”—It’s Smart
Sure, bringing up the topic of a postnup might not feel like roses and candlelight—but it’s actually one of the most grown-up, forward-thinking things you can do for your marriage. It is not about distrust—itt is about clarity, confidence, and protecting what you have both built (and what you are still building).
Whether you are locking in plans to protect your business, creating structure in a blended family, or just trying to reduce future headaches, a postnup is about mutual respect, not pessimism.
And as Kendrick Lamar said: “Sit down, be humble.” Translation? You don’t need to flex, just protect your peace. A postnup does not make your marriage weaker—it makes your foundation stronger.
If you or somebody you know wants to learn more about a postnuptial agreement, our team at Modern Legal is here to help.
Please note: these educational materials are based on North Carolina law where my legal practice is based. While the insights may have wide applicability, readers should consult with an attorney regarding the specific laws in their state or country.
Jordan Wideman is a compassionate family law attorney at Modern Legal, driven by a lifelong passion for helping others. Coming from a family rooted in public service, Jordan brings empathy, strength, and dedication to every client. A proud first-generation attorney, Jordan uses personal experience and deep community ties to guide families through their most important challenges—because to Jordan, family is defined by love, not just blood.
