If you indulge in any celebrity gossip, you may have heard that Actor Kevin Costner and his wife Christine Baumgartner are going through a divorce. Baumgartner has accused Kevin of being “aggressive” and “out of touch” about the psychological impact of divorce on their children.
The couple share three children, ages 16, 14, and 13 years old. Costner and Baumgartner were married in September of 2004 in Aspen Colorado. Upon news of the divorce, Costner asked his children and wife to move out. Baumgartner stressed he acted aggressively leaving Baumgartner and the children scrambling to vacate the premises. Baumgartner has been the primary caretaker for the children and has no income.
So, while the news is a buzz with gossip, what are some steps we can learn from their divorce to help you in your separation or divorce?
First, it is always advisable to speak with an attorney to discuss options for resolving your divorce as soon as possible. There are several options for amicably resolving your divorce without the need for “aggressive” behavior or litigation. Such amicable avenues include collaborative divorce, mediation, negotiation, and more. Asking your spouse to “move out” is usually not the best route. It is best to seek legal advice on navigating your divorce even before either party moves out of the residence. In comparison, Costner forcing Baumgartner and the children out of the marital residence likely was not ideal, especially as a father. Now, Costner and Baumgartner are enthralled in contentious litigation perhaps due to this abrupt behavior.
Second, speak with your spouse and children about a plan to navigate the divorce. Who will live where? Will financial support be paid to a spouse? Will financial support be paid to cover the children’s expenses from one party to the other, or to any third parties? How can you keep the line of communication open? It may not sound fun or palatable, but especially if you have children, even limited communication is a good idea. The sudden relationship and residency change for Baumgartner and the children likely only added unnecessary stress and frustration for the teenage children involved. If you have questions about your rights to possession of the residence or financial concerns, these items can be discussed with your attorney.
Finally, sharing your thoughts and grievances publicly is never the best route. Do not air your frustration on social media because it usually comes back to bite you in return, especially if things to go off course. Limit your social media presence and activity while going through a divorce so it cannot be used against you. Unfortunately, Baumgartner shared much of her family’s situation and information with the public, which undoubtedly created more stress on the family and children. Judges do not like to see this either!
While the Costner/Baumgartner family navigates their divorce, take note of their mistakes and help your own family better navigate the legal realities of ending your marriage. Speak with an attorney today to help guide you through the divorce process.
If you or someone you know is going through a divorce, our Modern Legal Team is here to help.
Written by: Theresa E. Viera
